I went my entire sophomore year of high school without talking to anybody. I’d go to lunch and take classes, but I’d always keep my eyes on the ground and my mouth full of chicken nuggets.
Part of it was because my family had just moved to a new city and I’d never had to meet new people before, but another part was that I just didn’t know what to say or how to act around strangers.
Then, I found a book by Leil Lowndes called How to Talk to Anybody, and started asking questions of new people, which got them talking, but didn’t build me up at all.
Sure, asking about events and dreams and getting the other person talking is a good thing, but there’s a limit to the amount of questions you can ask without seeming like a weirdo who doesn’t have anything to contribute to a conversation.
So, here are two videos I made that will help you get better at inserting stories about yourself into conversations because if you can’t make your day to day life sound interesting, why would anyone want to join you for it?
Top 3 Social Mistakes (And How to Avoid Them)
For the past three months I’ve been trying to get off knuckle cracking. I used to do it all the time, and I didn’t think it was a big deal. Then, I was watching a video of myself, and in one of the breaks, I cracked my knuckles and it was super loud and annoying.
We don’t get a lot of direct feedback in our day to day lives. Don’t believe me? Go draw something on a piece of paper, and ask a friend what he thinks of it. “It looks… good.”
Everyone makes mistakes and has quirks that turn other people off that we’re not really sure of, and without direct feedback we’ll never improve, so watch this video, see if you’re making any of these mistakes and then work to correct them.
How to Lead A Conversation
The last step is to get better at leading conversations. That means YOU’RE the one asking the questions or telling stories instead of sitting there awkwardly while the other person tries to think of something to say.
Here are three ways I lead conversations everyday, and how you can use the same strategies. This has helped me get dates, make bunch of new friends, and find new clients.
Help Me Help You
If you’re in tricky social situations all the time, it would be great to talk to you and learn how it’s going. Shoot me an email or even text me and say what’s up, my number is (972) 922-9817.
Finally, if you know somebody who needs to get their act together socially, ease them into these videos. You’ll not only be helping them become more interesting and attractive, but you’ll be helping get the word out about Following the Rules.
Have a good day, and keep being awesome!